Why you should not compare your life to the others

May 11, 2017

In having a conversation with friends and relatives, the topic about life goals is coming inevitably. One of us also starts to worry about what we've got and what we've been through. In the past few weeks, I've been watching TED Talks and some of the cool channels about self-improvements on Youtube. It just comforts me, and ignite my spirits. But at the same time, I found my friend who keeps bashing about what he hasn't got yet in life considering his age and comparing his life to other people's lives.

Is that normal to feel that way?

Well, it's good for you to feel consciousness. But you can't compare your life with others. Because you can't choose your family when you were born. When I was in High School, I envied so much of people from the rich family. But time flies, I realised that wasn't our choice, only heaven knows. It's cruel if I keep on wishing that I should be born from the richer family. Everything happens for a reason.

You should be happy whoever you are. God knows what best for you by gives you a position that probably other people couldn't handle it if they're being you. I'm 25 this year, some of my friends talk about marriage, and some of them decide to pursue their career or education like me. In my age, I often see people keep blaming themselves why they haven't succeeded yet, and so scared of getting older. Frankly, that was my anxiety too. When the anxiety or stress arises, calm your nerves and try to keep the open mind. Remember, it's just a storm in a teacup.

"If you're searching for that person who will change your life, look in the mirror." - Mel Robbins.

Know your path
There is no direct path to success. It's better for us if we know that we're on the right path as young as possible. But there's no such thing as too late to succeed. Let's contemplate.

Embrace what you've got
Yea but I want to be successful before 30! Hey, stop screwing yourself. People have different mentality and wisdom to take an advantage. Harry Potter creator J.K. Rowling famous after 31. McDonald's founder Ryan Kroc sold paper cups and milkshake mixers until 52. So what was that mean?

Maybe you better off this way
Think about why you haven't succeeded yet. Yes God knows what best for you, it's not your time yet. Just like those famous people, they had different times when they're successful. Keep the focus on being the best version of yourself.

Know your value
Your boss probably isn't paying you what you're worth. Instead, they're paying you what they think you're worth. Let's take the time to learn how to shape their thinking. Know your value, show them how great you are.

Be nice to people
Alright, this one sounds religious. But it's true when you're hurting people's feeling, then they curse at you, your life will never be really happy. If people love you, they love your personality, you will be a very positive and magnetic person. Never forget what you are.

Know your circle
Surround yourself with people who talk about visions and ideas, not people who talk about people.

"As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has a meaning."
- Barbara Sher.

"It's not your life. It's life. Life is bigger than you. Life isn't something that you possess, it something that you take part in and you witness." - Louis CK.

Instead of comparing your life to other people's lives, you'd better build your own life, and don't let your dreams be dreams. I really like to write and visualise the specific goals. Be specific about what I want to achieve, identify the location, time, and the circumstances surrounding my success. If the plan doesn't work, I'll change the plan, but never change the goal. See you on top!

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